Having a baby is one of the biggest life changes you will ever go through. You will come out of it feeling completely different than you used to, without even meaning to.

Even those with the highest intention of staying the same will find they just don’t feel the way they used to. One thing that mums tend to state they feel after having a new child is that they feel lost.

You lose a sense of identity and feel stuck between being an ideal parent, the person you were before you had your baby and the person you envisioned yourself being.

This can contribute to things such as anxiety and postpartum depression and as such you want to try and find yourself. If you’re looking for some tips on how to do so, keep on reading…

Give yourself time

When you’ve had a baby it can be easy to think you need to snap back to being yourself straight away. This is where you’re wrong. Instead, you need to give yourself time and be easy on yourself.

You’ve just been through one of the most demanding and gruelling things you will ever have to go to and are still facing challenges unlike anything you’ve ever experienced.

You’ll have hormones all over the place, will be sleep deprived and trying to navigate the messy world of parenthood. Give yourself a break and take it slow.

Think about what you want to do once your maternity leave is up 

It might be once your maternity leave is up you go back to your old job with different hours. You might also decide to go down a different path and try a new career.

The important thing is to do something that you love. It can be a good idea to speak to recruitment agencies that can help you find a job you want to do and that matches your skillset.

Don’t forget who you were before you had a baby

You were a person before having your baby and you haven’t lost that person, they’re just perhaps not as present as they were before. Try to remember who you were prior to becoming a parent and doing things you used to enjoy.

If you love to paint, go to the gym or read books don’t completely neglect these things and instead put time aside to do this, either once the baby is in bed or if you can hand them over to someone else for a time each week. Why not join your local parkrun on a Saturday morning, babies in prams are more than welcome!

These are just a few top tips that should help you to find yourself again once you’ve had a baby. Becoming a parent is a big life change but it doesn’t mean you need to completely change who you are.

Instead, you want to try and navigate this path while ensuring you feel happy and do what you can to succeed both at parenthood and having the life you want. What are some of your top tips for finding yourself again after having a baby? Let us know in the comments.

ChrissyJ xxx